4.) Describe something you did with your spouse when you dated, but that you’re now “over”. (Inspired by Scary Mommy)
Before we were married Pat spent his evenings pecking away on his computer while I caught up on every reality TV show known to man.
I would beg him to turn the computer off and join me on the couch. I hated being alone. I would watch TV in whatever room he was in. I opted for the small office TV instead of our big flat screen because I wanted someone to talk to.
Eventually he would flip his computer off and join me. We would watch a mutually agreeable show and then we would go skipping to bed at the same time.
If Pat went to bed before me I would pout the next day, “Why didn’t you tell me you were going to bed?? I would have gone to bed too!”
We really did love each other.
How very ‘newly wed’ of us.
Sigh.
And then I discovered technology and now we’re ruined. I wave to him on his way to our room and continue pecking away on my own computer. I can’t be bothered with that cramped office when the couch/TV/computer trio is beckoning from the other room.
Spending time alone?
YES PLEASE!
It’s okay.
I catch up with him on the weekends.
Now it’s your turn!
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The Prompts:
1.) Last week we wrote about what we have never done…this week write a list of 22 things you HAVE done. (inspired by Sellabit Mom)
2.) Write about the last item you looked for. Why did you need it?
3.) Something that scared the Hell out of you when you were a child. (inspired by Mama Sick)
4.) Describe something you did with your spouse when you dated, but that you’re now “over”. (Inspired by Scary Mommy)
5.) Do you have little ones dressing up for Halloween? It’s time for a costume share! What are they going to be?
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Oh my word – that picture is so priceless!
Oh, wow! I forgot that we used to head to bed at the same time. Hmmm…now I go to bed with my smartphone while he stays up with his big screen. Technology is such a slut…it sure gets around and breaks a part the marriages, doesn’t it?!
Yeah, all that togetherness junk is for newly weds. lol
You are FUNNY. And…does Pat ever smile in pictures? Please tell him that his pictures always make me giggle.
Do you IM back and forth? You just described Jeff and I to a ‘T’ but we will IM back and forth. Sure I am see him at the kitchen table from the couch that I sit on but why talk?
um, yeah…i can’t remember the last time my husband and i went to bed at the same time! =)
I discovered technology two years ago when my husband bought me the iPhone. To this day, he regrets it.
Love the photo! Sometimes it does feel like my husband and I are two ships passing in the night now that we have a child. Sigh.
am writing this comment and husband is sitting in front of TV. Needless to say-I hear you. Love the photo, are you on your way to see us?
The Mister hangs out in the man cave (when he’s home), and I’m left to my own devices – mainly the computer.
Oh, I SO KNOW. This is my life, too. Seriously. Thanks for sharing it, though, as it reminds me it’s not just me. I mean – uh – us.
Time alone? Your post got me fantasizing about that so much that I have pretty much forgotten the original question!! Your post made me laugh. I’d have to think hard to figure out what I expected “before” that I have given up on “now.” Maybe that’s why I didn’t do this post (that and the fact that random.org didn’t want me to do this post!!
hahaha I think we’ve all been through that stage. I know I have, but after 12 years, I don’t care who is going to bed when.
I used to get all poudy when my husband had to work and sat behind his computer all night. He’s still surprised when he says he has work that needs to be done, and I response by saying: oh yeah whatever, and get behind my computer and tweet the night away.
I loved the skipping part!
Hee! I know, us too! I think I was sad if we ever went to bed separately? Or spent time in separate rooms? Oh my, did I really just write that?!
Love the pic! :)
Amazing how the times change!
Phew, me and Hubby are not the only ones!
Alone time? I LIVE for alone time.
And that picture? Is hilarious.
Last thing I looked for was my boobs. I needed them for my mammogram today.
I mean, I needed them for the absolute funnest thing I’ve done ALL YEAR! Wahoo!
I think I found them near my belly button.
This sounds so familiar – I can’t remember the last time we went to bed at the same time. LOVE my alone time. I feel more normal now…
hehehe.
yep. Another SNAP, soul sista.
I remember hanging out with my “boyfriend” desperate for quality time while he read the paper/watched sport… nowadays I LOVE quality time… with myself. Time alone is so rare. I think thats what it is.
Thanks Mama Kat.
PS did you notice, i am BACK from my adventuring.
And I wrote a post about 22 things… I have done to avoid exercise.
I think you’ll like it.
x
But does he miss you nagging to be with him?
Nevermind… who misses nagging?
I NEED alone time! I am sure if I was married I would do the same thing. ;)
My husband introduced me to the internet several years ago. And yes, he does definitely regret it.
I think my husband kinda regrets buying me a laptop for Christmas that year because I haven’t been the same since!
The same thing is happening at my house.
I forgot that we used to like to spend time together….
Dumb Dad and I used to watch TV together all the time. Rarely now. He goes in the basement I go in the living room and do the TV/couch/computer thing you spoke of. It’s better this way.
There is only one night a week that we both like to watch the same show, other than that we usually spend MAYBE an hour together before I head off to bed. Personally, I’d take alone time the other 6 days a week—it’s SO necessary. Love the photo—so funny!
oh it wasn’t the computer that did us in, it was THE TWINS. :)
Now, I just want to watch my TV/DVR, John can type away or play with his Galaxy Tab (hee hee), I’ll catch up with him in the car in the morning. :)
My hubby and I just starting to go to bed at different times – and HE’S the one that’s pouty. It throws his sleep schedule off if I come to bed late…but really I just think he’s scared ;) Cute story and pic!
Just have to apologize for linking up three times #9, #10 & #12. I was doing it from my iPad (in bed)…and didn’t think it was working so I kept trying, and now I realize I hogged 2 other spots. I will add this to my list of things I’ve done…#23. Messed up Mama Kat’s Link Up!
Thanks for this great weekly writing motivation – I love it!
Julie
Jesus, I just realized I’m #7 too! I’m a giant moron!!!!!
Ha!! LOve the picture!! I agree…sometimes it’s ok to do your OWN thing.
This is my first time participating in the workshop. I wish I could say that writing this piece was reflective enough to help me find my missing necklace, but it didn’t. It did, however, give me hope that I will run across it eventually. That’s how I usually find things of mine that go missing.
Oh, I hear you. Precious time alone during the week is golden!
And that’s why our computer is parked in the family room a mere 5 feet from the couch and my hubby watching on our big screen! That’s still time together? Right?
This is the epitome of my life. Glad to know we’re not alone. My husband calls the computer and tv my lifelines.
-MM
yep, that sounds about right! HA!
I remember snuggling and giggling and loving being near each other.
Now I feel that way about my computer.
Linky is weird.
I couldn’t remember what I did when we were dating. I think I just sat there and got paid attention to. I don’t even know. I know he didn’t buy me expensive gifts. I guess he was preparing me for the long haul.
Wait. Are you saying that some married couples actually want to spend time together?
Oh, yes…I can so relate!! That sounds exactly like us ;)
Oh my God. ALONE time is the BEST. I love my family. I would throw myself in front of a truck for them. But the sexiest thing my husband has said to me recently (after a long stint of me pulling double parent duty) was, “Why don’t you go out tonight and go shopping or just go to Panera and write for a while. HOT!
I can totally identify, too! I just about wrote about the same thing… it must be a phenomenon.
Oh how I remember those newlywed days. We used to do everything together. Now all I want is ten minutes alone in the bathroom!
I love spending time alone! My husband doesn’t get it, and he gets all butt hurt when I try to push him out the front door!
You and I are alike in more ways than one. Lets hang out
we used to play cards together…now we sit with our respective laptops…
although I do force him to go to bed with me when I go…
because this back? isn’t going to rub itself
Alone time – yep, sounds like life here. The kids go to bed, and now that I’ve discovered blogging, I spend at least the hour after they go to sleep catching up on quality high-tech time!
We used to be that way too but we got ovcr it! I don’t mind being alone anymore.
Yep, that sounds about right. I remember those days. Now I’m like, “Isn’t it time for you to go on a business trip?”
That photo cracks me up.
My hubby IMs me from his computer – and we are in the same room!
Idk what that means ….
We used to blow up the air mattress and watch movies in the living room. And then some ;) No more.
I still try to cram every possible reality show. It may take me weeks sometimes to catch up on my DVR list, but I try. It’s probably seen as a higher priority than time alone with my husband! :)
Technology has WAY more of my attention since marrying Sugar Booger, but we do it side by side, as we watch tv {me on the ipad, him on the laptop}. We do pause to communicate sometimes… He’ll say nice things like, “Wanna go make me some cereal?” or, “Is my work laundry done?” Tehehe :) Just kidding. Kinda.
Yeah I used to be that way too. Pouty when we didn’t go to bed at the same time or if we weren’t camped out on the couch together. Now I’m all like give me space, I’m tired of people wanting my attention.
I am currently looking into having my own little apartment – a panic room, if you will – constructed within the confines of my home. You know…a place to go when I’m up to here with togetherness. I’ll let you know if I score a deal on a panic room contractor.
My hubby’s ideal bed time is 9:00 pm. I cant be bothered with that. LOL
Lately we can’t even catch up on the weekend – My hubby has been working a lot on the weekends. :(
I’ve convinced myself that as long as we’re in the same room we’re spending time together.
Sounds like my husband. He works at home as a writer. I try to remember that his working on his computer all the time pays our mortgage. However, sometimes I just want his attention! ;)