For awhile I subscribed to the belief that regretting anything in your life was unhealthy somehow. I went along with that philosophy that I couldn’t regret anything from my past because all of my choices are part of who I am today. But then I got to thinking of all the messed up stuff I’ve done and I decided…you know what? I bet I could have made some better choices and still not affected the outcome of my overall life at all. I bet I could have made some people a little happier and still turned out just fine myself. Heck, I wonder…if I had made better decisions I might be even happier with the person I’ve become!
My brother, who is 6’9″ now and terrified of cats one time grabbed my cat and threw it off of him when it attempted to climb up his leg.
I didn’t appreciate his aggressive behavior toward my cat and since we were both children I marched right over to his aquarium, grabbed his small lizard by the tail, twirled it like a lasso above my head and then tossed it to the couch across the room
“You be mean to my cat, I be mean to your lizard!”
Two days later my older brother held the barely breathing lizard in his hands and talked about cracked ribs and then the lizard died.
I love animals. I threw that lizard because my little brother annoyed me. I’m 34 years old now and I still think about that stupid lizard.
So when people are asked to name something in their life that they regret and they give that whole “I have no regrets because they’ve made me who I am today” song and dance…I can’t help but wonder if they’ve really thought about what they’re saying. You have to regret something, right? There’s no one you could have been nicer to? No wild nights you want to take back? No car accidents you wish you had avoided especially four years later with a still injured back? No lizard you wish you hadn’t thrown?
Because I have to say, I have PLENTY!