1.) A lesson you learned.
I was putting my daughter to bed the other night and she was all “why do bad things always have to happen to me?”
She was referring to the fact that I told her she likely would have to get braces when she’s older. And also have a mole removed. And also that she couldn’t stay up to watch Full House reruns.
I mean she’s right in the sense that when a child gets sick in this house, it is most often her. She’s got a sensitive little body and it takes her longer to get well, but something about her statement got to me.
It was like I had heard one too many “my life is so hard” complaints from her and I said, “You know, when I was your age I was crying myself to sleep every night because I missed my Dad and I knew I was never going to get to see him again…I would have much preferred worrying about braces instead of not having a Dad anymore. You’re actually very lucky.”
She blinked twice and was all, “I’m hungry” and I realized I had just overloaded her brain with too much to process.
I sometimes wonder how my kids can still find things to be sad about when they’ve suffered no real trauma in their lives. Part of me wants to shake the perspective into them. You’re fed well, you have your own room, you’re safe and nurtured, your family is whole and healthy and you live in a country that grants you every freedom you could desire!
I remember staying up all night on the floor of a hospital lobby when I was 19, waiting for word of my little brothers condition in the ICU. Would he survive his brain injury? Would that 6’9″ giant now have the brain capacity of a five year old? We wouldn’t know for hours. Days? It’s a blur now and thank God he was okay, but I remember thinking about how I would trade anything to have a million of the “bad” days I was accustomed to complaining about in exchange for what we were going through with him.
Now THAT was a bad day!
And it’s true, It was a terrible lesson I learned about how to appreciate regular bad days but I think the bigger lesson I’ve learned is that just because things could be much worse, does not make the thought of getting braces suck any less. It’s okay to be concerned about braces and mole removals and missing Full House reruns at ANY age, but especially when you’re nine. Those are big problems to have when you’re nine.
I’ll appreciate that those are the biggest problems she has for the both of us.
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