Why You Gotta Be So Rude *Updated*

I would say the song that will forever remind me of our trip to Hawaii was Rude by Magic. It was played nonstop. It’s about a boy who wants to marry a girl, he asks her father for permission, but the father says no. Then the boy breaks into the main chorus by singing, “why you gotta be so rude, don’t you know I’m human too? Why you gotta be so rude? I’m gonna marry her anyway.”

I’m sure the song is supposed to be romantic in the eyes of a girl who desperately loves her bad boy girlfriend and the forbidden love they have together. He’ll do anything to make her his, even betray her father who has raised her since birth! ROMANTIC!:

But somewhere along the line I became an obnoxious parent who rewinds the song and goes, “Well why is the dad saying no? Maybe this guy is a real jerk! Is he really calling the dad “rude” for refusing to give up his daughter?”

Leave it to a brilliant YouTuber to come up with a response from the father’s perspective:

I feel like if the girl had a response it would fall under the age old Papa Don’t Preach:

Naturally I downloaded Rude the moment it was available on iTunes because it’s still catchy as all get out. I like to think Stephanie would have downloaded it too.

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There is actually a version of this song from the “girl’s perspective” and I love it!

“Can I start a future with the love of my life, say yes say yes cause I need to know. You know I’ll always need your blessings ’til the day I die, so please tell me why the answer is no…”

I guess what they say is true, there really ARE three sides to every story.:


  1. says

    No joke- JUST heard this song on Pandora this morning and thought similar things. What kind of tool boyfriend responds with “why you gotta be so rude?”. Lame.

    • says

      Exactly! It’s like, “that’s your reaction to being turned down as a potential member to this family? They’re being rude???” lol Just another case and point where the fun rhythmn of a song over rides the actual words. ;)

  2. Kristina says

    This is one of those things about growing up. Parents need to learn to trust their kids in their choices, but also understand that they will make mistakes. The dad can think the boyfriend isn’t good enough, but in the end asking is just a formality these days. What amazes me is at the end where it’s obvious that they will be getting married anyway, but the father still turns his back and walks away. It boils down to this: you may not like the person your kid has chosen, but it’s their right to choose this person. You, as a parent, have to either stick to your guns and hazard the chance of causing a rift between you and your child, or try to get along with the significant other.

    • says

      Oh I agree! Everyone knows that attempting to forbid your child from being with the person they love will only draw them closer together. You have to love them through it.

  3. says

    Oh but you didn’t say it had a catchy island beat! That makes all the difference! I’m apparently not spending enough time listening to new music because this is the first time I have heard this one .. Pretty catchy but I always liked papa don’t peach too! :-)