I wouldn’t consider myself a feminist by any means. I certainly don’t appreciate being passed over for being a girl or being stereotyped as the one who takes on certain roles in the household purely because I’m The Woman. And of course I believe in equality of all humans, but I know I’m setting the women’s movement back every time I claim I’m “too weak” to do a job that consists of manual labor simply because I don’t want to do it.
Or I’ll ask my husband to please please PLEASE fix the cracked dry wall because I’m just a girl and that’s Man’s Work.
I walk both lines.
But it feels weird to watch women wear next to nothing and dance seductively to seductive music and then claim feminism.
— el Sooper (@SooperMexican) August 25, 2014
It took me awhile to process how sexualizing yourself in that way might be a Pro-girl kind of thing to do. Women often talk about the double standards where men are allowed to sleep around, objectify all the things, sexualize all the things and get applauded for it, while women are put down for exhibiting any of that same behavior.
When Beyonce gets on stage, puts on a ten minute booty shaking performance and then takes a stand for feminism at the end, are we supposed to be all “Get it girl! We can be sexual and be proud and raunchy too!”?
Problem is, I never much liked the men that did that in the first place.
Is it feminist to sexualize yourself in that way because you’re in control and calling the shots? Or is it anti-feminist because you’re objectifying yourself in the exact way we’ve been asking men to STOP doing for the past hundred plus years?
Or maybe it really has nothing to do with sexuality at all. If being a feminist means you believe you can be whoever you want to be and support equality of women in a world dominated by men…maybe it’s possible to promote that message AND dance seductively on stage.
Are we feminists now? I honestly don’t know.
Maybe Beyonce doesn’t know either.
To make matters even more hypocritical, after watching the confusing performance and while spending some time thinking about what feminism actually IS…I purchased three of the overtly sexual songs she sang during her raunchy performance. Because…CATCHY!
I guess this is where I continue straddling both sides. Maybe Beyonce straddles both sides too.
It really is a catchy song.