“My child’s well being is more important to me than my child’s opinion on me.”
Yesterday Kainoa got in trouble for going outside when I told him he couldn’t go outside. Truth be told, I left him home with Maile and Laina and I did not want him to go outside until I got back home from my quick errand. He got angry and stomped around because his friends were outside, but I stood firm. I gave him the option of running my errand with me and since he didn’t want to do that, I just told him going outside would have to wait until I got home.
When I returned, Kainoa was outside playing with his friends.
I immediately went into “shocked, angry, but mostly disappointed” mom mode and told lectured him about trust. I grounded him from electronics and playing outside for the rest of the day and I told him I had trusted him to follow the rules when I was gone and now that he disobeyed I really can’t trust him to be home without me again.
He was all, “Well you didn’t say anything about that trust when you left!”
He threw all of his nerf gun into the garage, said goodbye to his friends, ran into the house and locked the front door.
He locked me out of the house.
I entered the house through the garage instead and was all, “Well now that’s two days without friends or electronics. You keep acting like this and I’m going to tack on another day for every bad move!”
He stomped to his bedroom and slammed the door and 5 minutes later I followed suit only to find him playing with an electronic he had in there.
I was all, “Unbelievable. Less than five minutes after getting in trouble for disobeying me, here you are doing it again!! That’s three days of no friends and no electronics!”
I took the tablet away and an hour later I was wondering if I had been too hard on him. What is he going to DO for the next three days? He’s going to drive me crazy. Is this punishment for him or for me? And am I really that soft of a mother that I can quickly overlook blatant disrespect because I hate seeing my child upset?
And then the Facebook Gods intervened with a video of exactly what I needed to hear in exactly the right moment:
She hit the nail on the head. My child’s well being IS more important to me than his opinion of me. I’m NOT here to be his friend or to keep him happy 100% of the time. I’m here to make sure he grows up to be a lovely human and right now that needs to start with listening to authority, following rules and treating his mother with respect.
I just need to watch this video on repeat for the next three days while he detoxes from every source of entertainment he’s come to know.
I WILL HOLD MY GROUND!
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