Are We Feminists Now?

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I wouldn’t consider myself a feminist by any means. I certainly don’t appreciate being passed over for being a girl or being stereotyped as the one who takes on certain roles in the household purely because I’m The Woman. And of course I believe in equality of all humans, but I know I’m setting the women’s movemnet back every time I claim I’m “too weak” to do a job that consists of manual labor simply because I don’t want to do it.

Or I’ll ask my husband to please please PLEASE fix the cracked dry wall because I’m just a girl and that’s Man’s Work.

I walk both lines.

But it feels weird to watch women wear next to nothing and dance seductively to seductive music and then claim feminism.

It took me awhile to process how sexualizing yourself in that way might be a Pro-girl kind of thing to do. Women often talk about the double standards where men are allowed to sleep around, objectify all the things, sexualize all the things and get applauded for it, while women are put down for exhibiting any of that same behavior.

When Beyonce gets on stage, puts on a ten minute booty shaking performance and then takes a stand for feminism at the end, are we supposed to be all “Get it girl! We can be sexual and be proud and raunchy too!”?

Problem is, I never much liked the men that did that in the first place.

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Is it feminist to sexualize yourself in that way because you’re in control and calling the shots? Or is it anti-feminist because you’re objectifying yourself in the exact way we’ve been asking men to STOP doing for the past hundred plus years?

Or maybe it really has nothing to do with sexuality at all. If being a feminist means you believe you can be whoever you want to be and support equality of women in a world dominated by men…maybe it’s possible to promote that message AND dance seductively on stage.

Are we feminists now? I honestly don’t know.

Maybe Beyonce doesn’t know either.

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To make matters even more hypocritical, after watching the confusing performance and while spending some time thinking about what feminism actually IS…I purchased three of the overtly sexual songs she sang during her raunchy performance. Because…CATCHY!

I guess this is where I continue straddling both sides. Maybe Beyonce straddles both sides too.

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It really is a catchy song.

Writing Prompts For 09.04

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Every week you’re invited to join me in Writer’s Workshop by responding to one of the provided writing prompts posted each Tuesday. The directions are simple:

  • Choose a writing prompt from the list provided that inspires you most.
  • Write.
  • Come back this Thursday and link up by pasting the URL from your post into the list of thumbnails that will be displayed. Just scroll to the bottom of the thumbnail list, click the bold words you will see that say “Click here to enter” and you’re all set!

View more detailed instructions on how this weekly meme works in the Writer’s Workshop FAQs. To receive writing prompts in your inbox each week, subscribe to the writing prompt newsletter here.

Writing Prompts:

1.) Share a back to school memory.
2.) Find a photo of your grandmother’s hometown and share it.
3.) Talk about one thing you learned last month.
4.) Describe how your family celebrated Labor Day Weekend.
5.) Good television is coming! Share the Fall lineup you’re looking forward to.

Some Favorite Entries From Last Week:

“Then I got bored and lazy, so I quit.” -About 100%

“I was enamored with the simplicity and beauty of the island life and I told my husband and kids I could live in a tent on the beach there and be just fine for the rest of my life.” -Tiny Little Reveries

“When people say “I didn’t come here to make friends” they are going to be a storm cloud of drama.” -Mommablogsalot

“Leaving the door cracked she went and called my mother.” -Musings And Meanderings

“There would be 15-20 colts turned loose in a small arena and the children turned loose to chase after them.” -Birds Of A Feather

Episode 48: Tin Can Lantern DIY

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For episode 48 of Crafty Mom’s Weekly Challenge, I tackled the tin can lantern diy I’ve seen floating around on Pinterest.

This project was a little more challenging than it looks because it’s not as easy as just grabbing a can and stabbing holes into it…something I’m quite good at.

In order to maintain the cans shape you actually have to fill it with water and freeze it before pounding your holes in. This takes a little “pre-planning” and if you’re an impulsive crafter you might not appreciate the waiting game.

After freezing our water and poking holes into the cans, we melted the ice out and threw a battery powered candle inside. You can see the full episode over at The Stir, but I will say I was delighted with the how it turned out. I never expect these things to work but it actually turned out cute!

…in the dark.

During the daytime it just looks like a messed up hanging can.

It’s a small price to pay.

Take a look at my previous episodes of Crafty Mom’s Weekly Challenge here!

Breastfeed Without A Cover

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This week on Mommalogues, the most difficult question for me to answer was the “What do you really think about moms who breastfeed without a cover?” question.

This is a topic I don’t really like to touch because I don’t want to offend women (some good friends of mine) who are true breastfeeding advocates and this is a sensitive issue.

They have been fighting for the right to nurse a child wherever we need to nurse a child and I think that’s great! Personally, however, I would have preferred sitting on the toilet of a bathroom stall while nursing then sit anywhere publicly.

I know. I set the movement back by saying that, but it’s true.

I didn’t want to do it covered in public because my babies didn’t like that and would knock the blanket down. And I didn’t want to risk being uncovered because I don’t like feeling exposed.

I didn’t even feel comfortable breast feeding in the comfort of my sisters living room while our children played…so maybe I’m extreme. It’s possible that my ridiculous need for absolute privacy contributed to my post baby anxiety levels.

So when asked to share what I REALLY think about women who breastfeed without a cover, well part of me feels proud of them for not caring because what is that like!?!

And part of me feels like if you’re going to put yourself out there like that, you can’t possibly be surprised that it makes some people uneasy. Sure, WE understand we’re a life source and providing actual food to a baby, but most everyone else sees boobs. OMG BOOBS!

Check out what the other Mommaloguers have to say about this one!:

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Also on Mommalogues this week:

What are the food rules in your house?
What is the craziest method you’ve tried to get your kids to eat their fruits and veggies?
Does homeschooling put kids at a disadvantage socially?

Jack And Coke With Jess

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Cheers to the weekend!

Today I’m sharing a Friday drink that you can make from the comfort of your hotel room. This technique comes in really handy for people who happen to be staying in hotel rooms and find themselves thirsty…for…alcohol? Yes. Exactly that.

I found myself in a hotel room with Jess from Shuggilippo and wouldn’t you know we were both thirsty for alcohol? This is how we made the most of our mini bar:

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Check out Jess’s hilarious YouTube channel and pour yourself a little Jack and Coke to ring in your weekend!

31 September Vlogging Prompts

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Vlogging on a regular basis is hard enough to do on your own without any added inspiration. So here is some added inspiration, a complete list of September vlogging prompts to keep your YouTube channel happy!

31 September Vlogging Prompts

1.) Share some back to school tips.
2.) Fall is coming! Decorate your front porch or mantel.
3.) Bloopers reel…do you have outtakes from previous videos you can put together and share?
4.) Share a favorite app that you are loving.
5.) Complete the Back To School YouTube Tag (questions here)
6.) Show us what you’re wearing in an outfit of the day video!
7.) Review a product you love.

8.) Create Fall inspired “how-to” video
9.) Favorite Fall fashion…show us your boots!
10.) $1 Store Haul!
11.) I Heart Fall YouTube Tag (questions here)
12.) Make caramel apples.
13.) Tell us about something you learned this month.
14.) Ask your Facebook friends for questions to answer in an upcoming video!

15.) Day in the life! Show us what a typical September day is like for your family!
16.) Show us something in your state that we might not have in our state.
17.) Check out the top stories featured on Today and create a video response.
18.) Create a video that responds to viewer comments
19.) Share a favorite piece of Fall decor.
20.) Complete the sisters YouTube tag. (questions here)
21.) Unbox a package you received in the mail.

22.) Show us what’s in your makeup bag.
23.) Create a video inspired by something you pinned on Pinterest.
24.) Create a Fall inspired makeup tutorial.
25.) Show us what a day in your life is like.
26.) Complete the 32 random questions tag. (questions here)
27.) Half time recipe share! Create the perfect Football finger food!
28.) Show us what fall looks like in your neck of the woods!

29.) Create a Halloween inspired tutorial.
30.) Video compilation. Take a look at unused video clips from this month and compile them into a video of their own.
31.) End of the month haul! Share some of your favorite purchases from this month!


31 September Writing Prompts

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Writing prompts are a great way to stave off writer’s block when it comes to journal writing and blogging. Use them for yourself or share them with your kids to inspire consistency and fuel that creative mind! Below is a list of 31 writing prompts for September, peek back next month for a fresh October list!

31 September Writing Prompts

1.) Find a photo of your grandmother’s hometown and share it.
2.) Share a back to school memory.
3.) Talk about one thing you learned last month.
4.) Describe how your family celebrated Labor Day Weekend.
5.) Good television is coming! Share the Fall lineup you’re looking forward to.
6.) A blog post inspired by the word: falling
7.) List your favorite must-have apps…why do you love them?

8.) September is National Apple Month, create a blog post inspired by apples.
9.) Write a blog post inspired by the word: goals.
10.) Write about what it was like to live on your own for the first time.
11.) You won an award at some point in your life…what was it for?
12.) List activities that keep your kids busy on rainy days.
13.) Your top favorite dog breeds.
14.) The first name you were almost given before your parents decided on the one you have.

15.) Show us where you go for quiet.
16.) Throwback time! Share an old class photo of yourself.
17.) List the the top 6 books on your list to read next.
18.) Write a blog post inspired by the word: travel
19.) Something funny your child said.
20.) Write about a time you were wrong.
21.) If you were forced to choose a new career today, what would you choose and why?

22.) The first day of Fall is September 23rd, take a photo and share what the first day of Fall looks like in your next of the woods.
23.) Share a quote you love.
24.) Write about an embarrassing moment!
25.) Write a blog post inspired by the word: late
26.) Pinterest inspired! Try something you saw on Pinterest and share the results.
27.) Share a Fall inspired slow cooker recipe.
28.) Talk about a favorite childhood toy (either yours or your own child’s)

29.) September 29th is National Coffee day. How do you like your cup?
30.) Throwback time! Share an old photo and tell us about it.
31.) List your top favorite things about Fall.