Breast Cancer Awareness #HanesForGood

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I’ve never had a mammogram and to be honest, I get a little nervous about those kinds of appointments. Is it too much to ask that I just keep myself as covered up as possible 24 hours a day? I don’t like to take my coat off much less completely disrobe for any reason, but specifically in an office of any kind for strangers.

But breast cancer is something I take seriously. My best friend’s mother battled for her own life when we were in high school and WON and my own Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was in college. Thankfully, because she found her lump early enough, she was able to have it treated with a lumpectomy and six weeks of radiation.

In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month Hanes has teamed up with the National Breast Cancer Awareness foundation and I have agreed to partner up and schedule my first Mammogram. Because early detection is so crucial in the fight against cancer, we need to be proactive when it comes to preventative care, self testing, and actually getting ourselves in for those important appointments.

This type of preventative care is even more important to me now after seeing my best friend selflessly undergo a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy less than two weeks ago (she’s doing great!). It really puts into perspective how ridiculous my discomfort disrobing for an exam is. We are surrounded by beautiful, courageous, and brave women.

Buck up Mama Kat…time to be proactive! I’m looking forward to sharing that experience with you soon!

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Writer’s Workshop: Totes Riveting

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Today is special. I’m going to tackle all of the prompts:

1.) October is National Book Month, tell us about the best book you’ve read so far this year.

Maile read Ida B. and told me the book reminded her of herself, so naturally I had to read it too. I was relieved to find that Ida B. was not a serial killer, but rather is this sweet girl with some big thoughts and a really beautiful way of communicating what is happening in her brain. It reminded me of Maile too. Especially because Maile has always struggled with a bit of anxiety about going to school and Ida B. touches on that. She talks about how her teacher insisted on only calling her Ida (not Ida B.) and at the end of the day she would walk to meet her mom instead of running with excitement,

“But I’d been Ida all day long. Ms. Myer’s Ida, who sat still, stayed in line, kept her hands to herself, and didn’t have a single, tiny drop of fun. I felt stiff and tired and cramped into a too-small body with a too small name. So I just walked with slow, small steps to Mama.”

It also reminded me of myself at Maile’s age,

“Then, when no one was paying any mind, I’d go into my room, close the door, sit on the floor behind my bed, and cry and cry – for Mama and Daddy and me, and for all the love that seemed wasted because it couldn’t fix Mama.”

I adore young adult literature because it takes complex feelings and simplifies it so perfectly for just about anyone to relate to.

But if you’re looking for the book that had me literally sobbing on an airplane…I mean I had to have made a spectacle of myself but I could NOT put it down…that honor goes to The Storyteller. This book is unbelievably well told and absolutely destroyed me in Hawaii this summer.

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“If you had to pack your whole life into a suitcase–not just the practical things, like clothing, but the memories of the people you had lost and the girl you had once been–what would you take? The last photograph you had of your mother? A birthday gift from your best friend–a bookmark embroidered by her? A ticket stub from the traveling circus that had come through town two years ago, where you and your father held your breath as jeweled ladies flew through the air, and a brave man stuck his head in the mouth of a lion? Would you take them to make wherever you were going feel like home, or because you needed to remember where you had come from?”
Jodi Picoult, The Storyteller

2.) Share a recent text exchange that made you laugh.

I sort of insist on being the driver every time.

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3.) A blog post inspired by the color orange.

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4.) A time you were teased.

One time I told a teacher that I aspired to write a book and he and was all, “what will it be about?” and I was all, “I don’t know, maybe a memoir…” and he started laughing and was all, “sounds riveting.”

I should send him a link to my blog with a message that says, “check out my Halloween Wreath. TOTES RIVETING!”

Yeah. That’ll teach him.

5.) Create a fall inspired bucket list.

First, I’d like it to start acting like fall any day now because I wore a tank top today and I’m not happy about it. What’s the point of living in Seattle if I can’t complain about the rain everyday? My bucket list is just rain and coffee. All season. I don’t ask for much. As pretty as the sunshine is.

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 Now it’s your turn!

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The Prompts:

1.) October is National Book Month, tell us about the best book you’ve read so far this year.
2.) Share a recent text exchange that made you laugh.
3.) A blog post inspired by the color orange.
4.) A time you were teased.
5.) Create a fall inspired bucket list.

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Writer’s Workshop: That Friend

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2.) What were you blogging about last year at this time? How have things changed?

We all have that friend.

That friend who giggles at every inappropriate one liner you mutter under your breath.

That friend who belts out songs with you for hours during long car rides while you get lost.

That friend who helps you lift a motorcycle off a man who crashed in the middle of an intersection on a rainy night.

That friend who you told your husband probably knows you better than he does because he thinks you really want to be on The Ellen Show and she knows there is little that would embarrass you more in life than an actual response from her.

That friend who is the only friend you have still quietly reading all of your blog posts. After seven years of you non-stop writing about yourself, she hasn’t gotten tired of you.

That friend who discovered she carries a gene that makes her 80% likely to get cancer and 0% likely to produce any kind of immunity to fight it.

What?

That’s not your friend?

Than I am the lucky one.

My friend has elected to save her life today and is undergoing a double mastectomy to help prevent a disease that could steal her from her husband and her four kids.

I am worried sick, but could not be more proud of her.

Four years ago at this time I was writing about breast cancer and I’ll be damned if that stupid disease isn’t still causing trouble around here.

Grateful to have that friend.

 

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The Prompts:

1.) September 29th is National Coffee day. How do you like your cup?
2.) What were you blogging about last year at this time? How have things changed?
3.) Your most favorite (or lease favorite) fall fashion trends.
4.) Throwback time! Share an old photo and tell us about it.
5.) List your top favorite things about Fall.

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Are We Feminists Now?

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I wouldn’t consider myself a feminist by any means. I certainly don’t appreciate being passed over for being a girl or being stereotyped as the one who takes on certain roles in the household purely because I’m The Woman. And of course I believe in equality of all humans, but I know I’m setting the women’s movement back every time I claim I’m “too weak” to do a job that consists of manual labor simply because I don’t want to do it.

Or I’ll ask my husband to please please PLEASE fix the cracked dry wall because I’m just a girl and that’s Man’s Work.

I walk both lines.

But it feels weird to watch women wear next to nothing and dance seductively to seductive music and then claim feminism.

It took me awhile to process how sexualizing yourself in that way might be a Pro-girl kind of thing to do. Women often talk about the double standards where men are allowed to sleep around, objectify all the things, sexualize all the things and get applauded for it, while women are put down for exhibiting any of that same behavior.

When Beyonce gets on stage, puts on a ten minute booty shaking performance and then takes a stand for feminism at the end, are we supposed to be all “Get it girl! We can be sexual and be proud and raunchy too!”?

Problem is, I never much liked the men that did that in the first place.

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Is it feminist to sexualize yourself in that way because you’re in control and calling the shots? Or is it anti-feminist because you’re objectifying yourself in the exact way we’ve been asking men to STOP doing for the past hundred plus years?

Or maybe it really has nothing to do with sexuality at all. If being a feminist means you believe you can be whoever you want to be and support equality of women in a world dominated by men…maybe it’s possible to promote that message AND dance seductively on stage.

Are we feminists now? I honestly don’t know.

Maybe Beyonce doesn’t know either.

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To make matters even more hypocritical, after watching the confusing performance and while spending some time thinking about what feminism actually IS…I purchased three of the overtly sexual songs she sang during her raunchy performance. Because…CATCHY!

I guess this is where I continue straddling both sides. Maybe Beyonce straddles both sides too.

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It really is a catchy song.

Should Parents Smoke Pot

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Pot smoking was legalized in Washington State and back when we voted for this I really didn’t have an opinion one way or another. I’ve been listening to my pothead friends debate the topic of legalization since high school, so when it showed up on the ballots I thought they would be thrilled. And they are. All that time they spent rationalizing that drug finally paid off.

On Mommalogues one of the questions we answered was should parents smoke pot in places where it’s legal, and now that it’s been legal here for awhile, I finally have an opinion:


(video here)

Maybe I just need to start carrying Febreeze on my person.

Other topics covered on Mommalogues this week:

Are beauty and fitness obsessed moms setting a bad example for their daughters?
Be honest: How much exercise do you get?
Describe your child’s most embarrassing meltdown.

A Cringe Worthy Week

Well last week was cringe worthy!

I received a Stitch Fix box and while filming the unboxing realized one of the items had a Nordstrom Rack tag on it. Stitch Fix had priced the item for me to purchase at $68, but the Nordstrom Rack tag said $24.97. The video shows the precise moment I notice the error and then my reaction.

Adweek ran the story with a response from Stitch Fix. And my view of the internet went a little crazy.

I don’t like being the person that caused the “uproar”, but I felt compelled to share it with friends after encouraging people to try the service in previous unboxings. I’m not sorry for sharing, but I do wish the whole thing had never happened and that I could continue subscribing without the knowledge that I could get the items at Nordstrom Rack for much less.

And if that were not cringe worthy enough, I watched a Mommalogues video compilation where we were asked to talk about a time where we stood up for an unpopular belief.

I chose to talk about when Britney Spears was “having a tough time” and how I always believed in her even though she was a “hot mess” for awhile.

Very funny (and true), but imagine my horror when I looked to the sidebar and discovered who our celeb mom blogger of the month was.

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Jamie Lynn Spears.

Britney’s little sister.

Of all the months to talk about Britney’s “tough time”, I had to choose this one.

Definitely had no idea JLS was the celeb mom blogger.

Definitely cringing (and also laughing, because seriously? Only *I* would do something like that).

This week though, things are looking up! I’m starting off on the right foot with a brand new site re-design thanks to the wonderful Cyn at NWDesigns! I emailed her with something like, “Hey there! I’m tired of the red, my sidebar is broken and I need a cleaner look to my site. Please help, but if you need any direction at all you’ll need to ask Fran from SITS Girls because she knows what I want better than I know what I want.”

Now my site looks nothing like my site, but I love it.

It’s good to start fresh every once in awhile!

Other less cringe worthy Mommalogues topics include:

Would you rather snuggle with your kids or your pet?
How do you talk to your kids about stranger danger?
What is too young to start kids in competitive sports?
Would you let your son identify as a girl?

Writer’s Workshop: Words From Otto Frank

1.) A quote from someone that has stuck with you.

Yesterday I talked about reading The Fault In Our Stars and there was one part of the book that I thought was really interesting. The two main characters, Hazel and Augustus, visit the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam and describe an interview with Anne’s father Otto Frank that is played on a TV as you walk through the house.

He talked about his reaction to Anne’s diary and there was a quote that struck me. Otto Frank said, “I must say, I was very much surprised by the deep thoughts Anne had….it was quite a different Anne I had known as my daughter. She never really showed this kind of inner feeling. And my conclusion is, since I had been in very good terms with Anne, that most parents don’t know really their children.”

I knew I was supposed to be paying attention to the love story unfolding between Hazel and Augustus, but I had never heard Otto Frank speak of Anne’s diary before. It’s crazy to me that at one point I felt so connected to Anne, reading her diary around the same age she was when she wrote it. But here I find myself for the first time relating as a parent.

I’ve been struggling all year to figure out what’s going on in the head of my tween. I’ve always prided myself for knowing her better than anyone. She’s mine. I’ve raised her. I can tell you exactly what her intentions are and I’ll be the first to tell you she’s too shy to speak up for herself. I’ve spent nearly every day of her life with her. I know her completely.

But when I read those words from Otto Frank my mind skipped to that smile I saw my daughter flash her best friend as they both bowed their heads and giggled in response to something I said. An inside joke. I know that flash. I have those girlfriends too.

It has clicked. Otto Frank is right. I only know the version of her she wants to show me.


(video here)

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The Prompts:

1.) A quote from someone that has stuck with you.
2.) List 13 things you love about vacation.
3.) Public speaking.
4.) Something you got away with.
5.) If your family were dogs, what breed would each of them be?